When it comes to the topic of marriage and having children, I may have done things backwards but I do not think it makes me nor my partner a bad person. We did not want the moment to not feel rushed or forced and we both knew what has to be done since Day 1.
I call the father of child my husband, and vice versa, as it is easier that way and no, I am not a single mother at least not to us, not to our families because of the plans we have made. Since birth of Baby 1, we already knew we wanted to be together and raise him together. We saw ourselves as a family. We even discussed Baby 2 before I discovered I was pregnant because of some stuff our FS master had said when we went to him to choose a suitable name for Baby 1 back in Sep '14. Idk much about such stuff and how it really works but he was so accurate about our 2nd Baby it is hard to not be wowed. Like he told us about her before I even knew I was expecting, even mentioned it was a HER and the year we would expect her arrival which I honestly thought was bullshit but loooooook. Yeah, she came so soon, even with all the birth control pills and before we could get everything settled properly...the master said it's "fate". U know I really don't like to believe such things but ya, according to him our lives are already planned. Haha. I don't want to promote this readings though but...I can't deny it and call it absolute bs either. If I wanted to promote religious stuff online i'd first share the many miracles I had encountered in my walk with Jesus too yeah. Again, when u are with a partner with a different belief from you, this are some things you will face. Such a sensitive topic to talk about so I shan't elaborate further la.
Anyhow, we are totally fine with having to push things back a little. Plus, I wouldn't want to be in a gown with a bloated face and a bulging tummy. I want to feel pretty and look pretty so the delay.
It seems like we don't have much of an issue with the backwards thing but everyone around us seems to be bothered by it. Honestly, I don't blame them because we were brought up in a way that marriage has to come before babies and that is supposedly the right thing to do. However, in my opinion, that signed paper does not prove you're a better parent because even some married couples can't raise their children well. It is not about the paper but instead, it's how much you can provide for your child and do your best to give your child the best environment to grow up in. Should you have to rush into a marriage, and live with someone who is abusive or who cheats, will that environment your child grow up in be a happy one? It is just one of the many things I thought about before rushing to sign the paper. Not trying to convince anyone to agree with my views but wanted to share a little bit about my life choices and let you know and be assured my kids are well taken care of.
Sometimes I question myself...why my life is like that and why can't i be one of those who takes a conventional path (oh the many things I do differently from others...like eg. dropping out of sch etc). But If everyone has such easy and simple lives, wouldn't that make the world a boring place. Everyone is different. As I always say, Life is full of unexpected surprises.
I call the father of child my husband, and vice versa, as it is easier that way and no, I am not a single mother at least not to us, not to our families because of the plans we have made. Since birth of Baby 1, we already knew we wanted to be together and raise him together. We saw ourselves as a family. We even discussed Baby 2 before I discovered I was pregnant because of some stuff our FS master had said when we went to him to choose a suitable name for Baby 1 back in Sep '14. Idk much about such stuff and how it really works but he was so accurate about our 2nd Baby it is hard to not be wowed. Like he told us about her before I even knew I was expecting, even mentioned it was a HER and the year we would expect her arrival which I honestly thought was bullshit but loooooook. Yeah, she came so soon, even with all the birth control pills and before we could get everything settled properly...the master said it's "fate". U know I really don't like to believe such things but ya, according to him our lives are already planned. Haha. I don't want to promote this readings though but...I can't deny it and call it absolute bs either. If I wanted to promote religious stuff online i'd first share the many miracles I had encountered in my walk with Jesus too yeah. Again, when u are with a partner with a different belief from you, this are some things you will face. Such a sensitive topic to talk about so I shan't elaborate further la.
Anyhow, we are totally fine with having to push things back a little. Plus, I wouldn't want to be in a gown with a bloated face and a bulging tummy. I want to feel pretty and look pretty so the delay.
It seems like we don't have much of an issue with the backwards thing but everyone around us seems to be bothered by it. Honestly, I don't blame them because we were brought up in a way that marriage has to come before babies and that is supposedly the right thing to do. However, in my opinion, that signed paper does not prove you're a better parent because even some married couples can't raise their children well. It is not about the paper but instead, it's how much you can provide for your child and do your best to give your child the best environment to grow up in. Should you have to rush into a marriage, and live with someone who is abusive or who cheats, will that environment your child grow up in be a happy one? It is just one of the many things I thought about before rushing to sign the paper. Not trying to convince anyone to agree with my views but wanted to share a little bit about my life choices and let you know and be assured my kids are well taken care of.
Sometimes I question myself...why my life is like that and why can't i be one of those who takes a conventional path (oh the many things I do differently from others...like eg. dropping out of sch etc). But If everyone has such easy and simple lives, wouldn't that make the world a boring place. Everyone is different. As I always say, Life is full of unexpected surprises.